Thursday, May 30, 2013

On Girls and the Secret Places Underground



Underground, plenty goes on before ever the green shoot rises; before ever the volcanic fire overflows and the grey plume rises; before the tsunami sweeps inland and destroys.  Likewise, underground and in the secret haunts of the heart, while the capital of a Christian home and habits carry a young woman outwardly along in a life of compliance upholding the aura of the Christ walk, things are happening which eventually will become overtly visible in either a life of beautiful abandonment to Christ or a life of compromise and ultimate betrayal of His ways.  How deeply we need to know our children, to recognize the signs of the heart!  What follows are a few reflections on girls’ ways when the secret places begin to harbor the world; a subtle course, imperceptible as the young girls grow up in the church.

That which has been described to me recently, and that which I have also observed on a number of occasions, is “a constant stream of foolish talk”;  it seems like nothing more than a talkative outgoing preteen girl but today I find more going on there.  First, endless chatter of foolish things denotes the overflow of the heart, as Scripture says.  Second, it inoculates a girl against both listening and learning/observing.  Third, it elevates her thoughts to a place they should not occupy, especially when she is in the presence of older girls (as she can look and learn and be infused with what they have to teach), or friends (to whom she should be practicing a one-anothering, esteeming others better than herself).  Soon, her thoughts become a type of self-expression that gains an undue importance, because it is what is getting airspace and is being heard by herself and others, which aggrandizes her careless, empty, foolish thoughts to an elevation inappropriate to a young girl, inappropriate for a noble and gracious young woman, inappropriate to a friend, and inappropriate to a Christian.  She slips into a sphere where she cannot easily be influenced by godly older girls or women because her space is filled with her own opinions being thought and aired, so that she no longer really notices that which is “of good report, praiseworthy”.

When a Christian is inoculated against listening to others, only hearing her own constant voice, she will not be fitted in her habits to listen to God.  In Isaiah, God says, “Listen carefully to me, and eat what is good, and let your soul delight itself in abundance.  Incline your ear and come to me…”  Habits are formed in early years by response to parents first, and then to preachers/teachers and godly influences second.  These habits transfer in the teen years to a relationship directly with God.  I think we must ask regarding our children, Do they listen with their hearts to us—earnestly seeking then to implement what we have said?  Do they listen with their hearts to the preacher, to conference speakers, to wise teachers?  To wise books?  For young ladies, do they listen eagerly to their mother’s friends, revere them in a respectful and appropriate manner, and take in what they say as so much treasure meant for them?  How about older girls in their lives?  Do they quietly watch and look to emulate?

“Listen carefully” implies practiced silence; “eat what is good” implies an action then embracing good things, mostly centered on the things of Christ, of the character of God, of His good blessings to us.  If we are not increasing in our appetites for these things we cannot actively embrace them, and our soul will not delight in them.

God goes on to say, “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, and my ways are not your ways…for as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my thoughts higher than your ways, and My thoughts than your thoughts.”  If young girls do not have a sense of others having  thoughts worth hearing, apart from themselves, how will they habitually be prepared to seek out God’s thoughts?  If their constant companion is the speaking of their own thought, how will the idea that Someone’s thoughts are higher than their thoughts even have an entrance point?  If they are so busy saying empty thoughts that create a cacophony in their soul, they will be unfit for the life of a Christian and the life of a quiet woman whose gentle spirit is precious in the sight of God. 
continued tomorrow...


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